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Disorganised attachment style — therapy in Melbourne & online

Wanting closeness and fearing it at the same time makes sense. Here's why.

Disorganised attachment — sometimes called fearful-avoidant — often develops when the people who were supposed to be safe were also unpredictable or frightening. If you find yourself craving connection and pushing it away in the same breath, that's not a contradiction. It's a survival response. Therapy at Unison is built for exactly this kind of complexity.

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Who this is for

  • People who want closeness but find themselves sabotaging it when it arrives
  • Anyone whose relationships feel simultaneously essential and terrifying
  • People with complex trauma backgrounds affecting how they relate to others
  • Those who've been told they are "too much" or inconsistent in relationships

What to expect

  • Trauma-informed therapists experienced in complex relational patterns
  • A slow, safe approach — no expectation of immediate openness
  • Integration of somatic, attachment-based, and trauma-focused modalities
  • Online across Australia, or in person at our Carlton office

Why Unison, not a generalist clinic?

Disorganised attachment is the most misunderstood of the four styles. It's not instability of character — it's the nervous system's response to an impossible bind. Our therapists understand that healing requires a consistent, unhurried relationship with safety before anything else.

Therapists who work in this space

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Natasha Lama

Counsellor & Sex Therapist · she/her

Natasha is a registered psychotherapist with a Master's in Counselling and specialised clinical training in sex therapy. She offers inclusive sex therapy, multicultural counselling, and sex-positive, relationship-diverse care.

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Nicki Nelis

Counsellor · she/her

Nicki is a Gestalt therapist with nearly 20 years of experience helping young people and adults navigate life's complex transitions. She provides a warm, relational space to explore identity, self-esteem, grief, and relationship patterns.

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JC Christoff

Accredited Mental Health Social Worker · they/them

JC is an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker and Medicare provider with over 20 years' experience. They specialise in offering deeply affirming, non-judgemental spaces for LGBTQIA+, non-binary, trans, polyamorous, and kink-aligned individuals.

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Nash Mbani

Mental Health Nurse & Holistic Counsellor · she/her

Nash is a South African-born, Melbourne-based therapist with over 20 years of experience as a registered psychiatric nurse. She blends clinical nursing expertise with holistic counselling, focusing on somatic healing and nervous system regulation.

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Meg Wilson

Founder, Psychotherapist · she/her

Meg is the founder and lead psychotherapist for Unison. For over a decade, she has integrated clinical psychotherapy with creative art therapies and systemic relationship models, with a special focus on non-typical relationship structures.

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Ready when you are.

Start with a free 15-minute fit call — a real conversation with a therapist, not a sales pitch. If it isn’t the right fit, we’ll say so and point you somewhere better.

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