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Avoidant attachment style — therapy in Melbourne & online

You value independence. Therapy can work with that, not against it.

If you've been described as emotionally unavailable, or you find yourself pulling away just as things get close, you're not broken — you developed a pattern that made sense at the time. Attachment-informed therapy at Unison works at your pace, without pushing you into vulnerability you're not ready for.

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Who this is for

  • People who value independence but notice it creates distance in relationships
  • Anyone who shuts down or withdraws when conflict or closeness increases
  • Partners whose avoidant patterns are creating friction in a relationship
  • People who want to understand their relational style without being pathologised for it

What to expect

  • A therapist who won't push you to open up faster than feels safe
  • Attachment-based and emotionally focused approaches, adapted to your pace
  • Space to understand where your patterns came from, not just how to change them
  • Online across Australia, or in person at our Carlton office

Why Unison, not a generalist clinic?

Avoidant patterns are often misread as not caring. Our therapists understand the difference between someone who doesn't want connection and someone who learned that connection came with cost. We work with the pattern, not against it.

Therapists who work in this space

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Natasha Lama

Counsellor & Sex Therapist · she/her

Natasha is a registered psychotherapist with a Master's in Counselling and specialised clinical training in sex therapy. She offers inclusive sex therapy, multicultural counselling, and sex-positive, relationship-diverse care.

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JC Christoff

Accredited Mental Health Social Worker · they/them

JC is an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker and Medicare provider with over 20 years' experience. They specialise in offering deeply affirming, non-judgemental spaces for LGBTQIA+, non-binary, trans, polyamorous, and kink-aligned individuals.

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Nicki Nelis

Counsellor · she/her

Nicki is a Gestalt therapist with nearly 20 years of experience helping young people and adults navigate life's complex transitions. She provides a warm, relational space to explore identity, self-esteem, grief, and relationship patterns.

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Nash Mbani

Mental Health Nurse & Holistic Counsellor · she/her

Nash is a South African-born, Melbourne-based therapist with over 20 years of experience as a registered psychiatric nurse. She blends clinical nursing expertise with holistic counselling, focusing on somatic healing and nervous system regulation.

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Meg Wilson

Founder, Psychotherapist · she/her

Meg is the founder and lead psychotherapist for Unison. For over a decade, she has integrated clinical psychotherapy with creative art therapies and systemic relationship models, with a special focus on non-typical relationship structures.

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Ready when you are.

Start with a free 15-minute fit call — a real conversation with a therapist, not a sales pitch. If it isn’t the right fit, we’ll say so and point you somewhere better.

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