Articles & resources
Reading for the curious.
Articles from the Unison team on relationships, non-monogamy, trauma and mental health, plus explainers on therapies we use, like EMDR and Emotion-Focused Therapy. Each one ends with how to get in touch if you'd like to talk it through with a therapist.
Relationships
26 September 2026 · 9 min read
When Your Metamours Don't Get Along
For the hinge whose two partners can't stand each other: what makes the middle so heavy, what is and isn't yours to fix, and practical ways to lower the temperature.
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15 September 2026 · 6 min read
Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: How Relationships Heal
Betrayal breaks something more specific than trust in the abstract — it wounds the felt sense that this particular person has you. Unison director Meg Wilson on what actually rebuilds it, with Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman's research, and the couple who taught her the shape of it.
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15 September 2026 · 5 min read
Types of Attraction: A Guide to Romantic, Sexual and Other Kinds of Connection
Attraction isn't one thing. This guide walks through romantic, sexual, aesthetic, sensual, emotional and intellectual attraction — and why untangling them matters more than you'd think.
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15 September 2026 · 4 min read
What Actually Brings Non-Monogamous Couples to Therapy
Director Meg Wilson joined The Lifestyle Lounge podcast to talk shame, compassionate honesty, and why most couples in non-monogamous relationships end up in therapy for the same reasons everyone else does.
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6 July 2026 · 5 min read
The Things We Do to Push People Away
In the middle of a fight, one person often does something that pushes the other away — a cruel line, a slammed door, a sudden coldness. Unison director Meg Wilson on what these distance-creating behaviours are for, and how to grow them into something healthier.
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23 June 2026 · 4 min read
The Feeling That Wants to Stay Hidden
Shame is one of the most quietly destructive forces in people's lives — not because it's rare, but because it's ordinary. Unison director Meg Wilson on where shame comes from, what it does, and what it means to let people in.
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23 April 2025 · 4 min read
Learn About Attachment Theory
The four attachment styles, where they come from, and how to recognise your own pattern in how you react when a relationship feels under threat. With books, podcasts and further reading.
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28 January 2025 · 5 min read
Breaking Free from Negative Cycles: A Gentle Guide to Deescalate Conflict
When the same fight keeps replaying with different details, there's usually a fear or need underneath it. How to recognise the cycle you and your partner get stuck in — monogamous or not — and slow it down.
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19 December 2024 · 5 min read
What You Need to Know Before Starting Relationship Therapy
Three beliefs that keep people out of relationship therapy: that it's only for couples in crisis, that showing emotion is weakness, and that the therapist will take sides.
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16 December 2024 · 4 min read
A New Theory of Emotions
Lisa Feldman Barrett's research suggests emotions aren't triggered — your brain builds them from body signals and context. What that means for reading your own feelings more precisely.
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21 October 2024 · 5 min read
The Delicate Balance: Challenges of Being a Hinge in a Polyamorous Dynamic
A look at the specific strain of being a polyamorous hinge when you're a people-pleaser, from pressure to please everyone to setting real boundaries.
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10 April 2024 · 1 min read
Does Non-Monogamy Make You Repeat Toxic Relationship Patterns? feat. Meg Wilson
Meg Wilson discusses polyamory and non-monogamy's impact on the nervous system and the risk of repeating relationship patterns.
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26 August 2026 · 5 min read
Why Trauma Feels Like It's Still Happening — And What EMDR Does About It
A traumatic memory can feel like it's happening again because the brain stored it without a date stamp. What goes wrong, what EMDR does about it, and what a session actually involves.
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28 January 2026 · 5 min read
Depression vs Burnout – How to Tell When It’s More Than Stress
Burnout usually lives in one part of your life and eases with real time off. Depression tends to spread and doesn't lift with rest. Four questions to help you tell which one you're dealing with.
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15 September 2026 · 4 min read
What Is Schema Therapy?
People get referred to schema therapy constantly, and almost nobody explains what it means once you're actually in the room. What a schema is, the patterns that show up most often, and what the work looks like week to week.
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3 July 2026 · 4 min read
Preparation and Integration: Where the Real Work of Medicine-Assisted Therapy Happens
The headlines are about the medicine. The evidence is about the therapy around it. An educational look at preparation and integration in Australia's regulated pathway — and why the dose is only the doorway.
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30 September 2025 · 7 min read
Medicine-Assisted Therapy in Australia
Psilocybin and MDMA can now be prescribed in Australia, but only through a narrow, regulated pathway. Who it's for, how access works, and why we don't recommend the underground route.
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20 May 2025 · 7 min read
AI Therapist: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
When is AI most helpful for our mental health, and when is it part of the problem? We weigh the benefits against the risks.
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30 May 2023 · 5 min read
What Is Mediation for Relationships?
When a non-monogamous relationship needs agreements renegotiated or a conflict settled, mediation gives everyone a structured way to do it. The seven steps, from first consultation to planning ahead.
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24 May 2023 · 2 min read
What Is Emotion-Focused Therapy?
Most couples who argue about dishes or phones are really arguing about something else. How Emotion-Focused Therapy finds the fight under the fight, and what a session actually looks like.
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